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Myan asked on 10/7/2009 8:38:59 PM Report this post
I am new to this site and have just started TTC in August. I am aware that it is normal for it to take up to a year to conceive, but for some reason I can't stop feeling like it's going to take a long time. I get anxious thinking about all the things that could go wrong (one of the problems with researching too much on the internet) but I also don't have any false expectations.

I am already sick of being told by people who have never had kids or have never tried to conceive that it will happen but I have to stop trying. I HAVE BARELY EVEN STARTED TRYING! If it only happens when you stop trying then everyone who had unprotected sex at any time of the month would be pregnant.

I don't feel a lot of support from my friends and family for trying to have a baby even though everyone loves DH and we are financially stable and have been together over six years now. My friends don't want kids, and my family tells me that I should wait (I'm 26 and DH is 36) Just because they are not in a position to start a family doesn't mean I am not. Is anyone else having problems with an unsupportive family?

Anyway, that's my rant. I just needed to get it off of my chest. Thanks!

jessg282 said on 10/7/2009 9:11:40 PM Report this post
I hear ya! I don't necessarily have an unsupportive family but sometimes I feel like they could care less. I've had someone in my family tell me (when I got preggo with #2 when my son was only 9 months old) that it's a lot to handle and asking me if I was sure I was ready! That's pissed me off because only you know how much you can handle. So, if I was going to have 2 babies under the age of 2, then so be it. Unfortunately, I m/c at 10 weeks, but still, it really pissed me off when they said that.

jessg282 said on 10/7/2009 9:11:58 PM Report this post
Sorry...lol...forgot to say good luck to you!!

ashstrom said on 10/7/2009 9:50:22 PM Report this post
My family is pretty supportive but doesn't understand the pain involved when you ttc for a long time. But it sounds like you're definitely ready for kids. They should keep those opinions to themselves! Good luck and baby dust!

Cinnamon said on 10/8/2009 7:55:20 AM Report this post
Our families are just the opposite - the pressure feels enormous. They don't know we're ttc - we've kept that to ourselves for now. I don't want people to be constantly thinking or asking about how's it going? nudge, nudge. No thanks. I, too am very worried about early mc, or other problems, just b/c it is so common.

The biggest thing for you to do is to learn about all of the various signs of your fertility. It's true that you can start letting all of this rule your life very quickly, and the emotional ups and downs every two weeks (for O/BD and for the AF/BFP) can be tough. But unless you get the swimmers to the egg, which is a short window of time (5 days before O and a couple after O), there is no chance.

Good luck!

heatherohmy said on 10/8/2009 10:08:09 AM Report this post
I hear ya girl! Even though neither of our sides of the family know we are TTC my DH's side of the family is always asking us if we are being careful as to not get pregnant because we wouldn't want to bring a baby into the enviornment we are in. Hello he is a occupational therapist and I am a RN, we both have cars that are paid off and all of his college loans are paid off and all of my school loans will be paid off in the next 3 months. We have a 4 bdrm 3brm house with a fenced in back yard and a great school district why wouldn't we want to bring a child into the envirnment we are in. I think she is worried about the economy but we both work in the health field in a very prominent hospials so we are not concerned about out jobs.
My family on the other hand is always asking us when we are going to get pregnant saying that once we start TTC we will get pregnant right away because they all did. Hello we have been TTC for 2 years this month and it is doing everything but happening quick.
My advice to you is patience, I know it is hard but I firmly believe that when the time is right it will happen. Also I know it is hard to do but don't put TOO much into it, all you will do is stress yourself out and that is not going for you, TTC, or a baby if you do get preggers. Know that everyone on this site is here for you.

Best of luck and many blessings to you!
Keep us posted on whats going on with your journey.

Heather

lenajoyce0925 said on 10/8/2009 10:32:41 AM Report this post
DH and I just started ttc our second child. Our daughter just turned one. We have told both families and just my mom has said to wait. I am hurt and pissed because I thought she would have been more supportive of DH and I's decision. A part of me is glad I told her while another part wishes I hadn't. Just hang in there and lots of baby dust to you.

Desperate2beAmom said on 10/8/2009 10:57:13 AM Report this post
we havent told our families but im pretty sure his mom knows and she seems ok w it and would be happy if we have a baby. i know all to well bout the emotional part of tryin and it really gets to me and im tryin to not let it

Myan said on 10/8/2009 8:29:25 PM Report this post
It's sad to feel like you're on your own. My sister told me today that she is sick of 'everything being about me' and that she has had to listen to me talk about my wedding/school/condo purchase/ttc for the last two years and she's sick of it. It's too bad because she was one of the people that I felt I could vent to and would support me.

I guess not...

Desperate2beAmom said on 10/9/2009 6:27:32 AM Report this post
I'm sorry that sucks. Besides my man this site is my support.

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