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sullivan asked on 3/9/2010 8:57:49 AM Report this post
I have been trying to get pregnant for a while now. Me and my husband have intercourse almost every weekend. My cycle is 25 days! I really need help and tips on becoming pregnant what days are best to try Im really feeling down because we REALLY WANT A BABY!!!! any advice will do!

Thanks Ladies!

cass0180 said on 3/9/2010 9:15:53 AM Report this post
well if you havent tried it already you should definitely get into charting, your cycle at least. theres a free calendar on this site that helps you to know when your best chances for getting preggo are! you will see the little hearts on there and thats when you babydance! try it out and maybe ask someone about BBT charting, i have heard thats good but never done it. hope this helps!

sullivan said on 3/9/2010 9:19:30 AM Report this post
Thank you and it does!!

weemace73 said on 3/9/2010 9:24:32 AM Report this post
You definitely need to start temping and using OPKs. You could be ovulating during the week so having intercourse on the weekend wouldn't do you any good. You should also invest in the book Taking Control of Your Fertility. It is very informative and can get you started in the right direction. Your fertile window is only about 4-5 days long with 2 days being your strongest chances every month for getting pregnant.

Knowing that your cycle is 25 days isn't enough information. Mine is 32 days and I ovulate on day 19 or 20. My friend is also 32 days but she ovulates day 15. It's different for every woman.

sullivan said on 3/9/2010 9:28:54 AM Report this post
well it says i ovulate on day 11

weemace73 said on 3/9/2010 9:34:16 AM Report this post
What says that? An OPK? Are you temping?

sullivan said on 3/9/2010 10:44:56 AM Report this post
no im not temping and the chart on here says i ovulat eon day 11

Myan said on 3/9/2010 11:31:15 AM Report this post
Fertility calendars are not accurate. They go off of the misconception that women have 28 day cycles and ovulate on CD 14(ish) (which most women don't)

The only way to know if/when you are ovulating is to take OPKs and to temp. An OPK will predict when you might be ovulating and temping will confirm that you've already ovulated (there is a tutorial on how to temp at Fertilityfriend.com)

You can only get pregnant 3 days in the month (the three days before you ovulate) so you must figure out when you are ovulating so you can time intercourse properly.

Good luck!

weemace73 said on 3/9/2010 11:59:00 AM Report this post
When does Ovulation take place?
Ovulation takes place, on average, about two weeks before your period, though it can vary from 10-16 days before the onset of menstruation depending on the length of your luteal phase. During an “average” 28 day cycle, ovulation is usually expected to take place between cycle days 13-15. Based on this guideline, many women are taught to expect ovulation around day 14 of their menstrual cycle. Many women, however, do not have average cycles and even those who usually do may see irregularities from time to time.

Detecting Ovulation
Your ovulation date and your time of peak fertility can be detected by charting your fertility signs. This is because our bodies produce signals that can alert us that ovulation is approaching and tell us when ovulation has passed. Fertility signs that indicate that estrogen levels are high and ovulation is approaching (and fertility is high) include observing increasingly stretchy and “egg white” cervical fluid and observing a high, soft and open cervix. Commercial devices such as ovulation prediction kits (OPKs) and fertility monitors can also tell us that ovulation is approaching by measuring the presence of estrogen or luteinizing hormone (LH) in urine. Charting your basal body temperature (BBT) allows you to pinpoint the day of ovulation and tells you when ovulation has passed because progesterone raises the basal body temperature after ovulation.


A typical menstrual cycle may be anywhere from 21 to 35 days according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine. Some women even notice cycles that are shorter or longer than this. Ovulation, then, may occur much earlier or later than typical guidelines suggest. For example, ovulation may occur on cycle day 23 during a cycle that is 35 days long for a woman with a 12 day luteal phase while ovulation may occur on cycle day 10 for a woman with a 24 day cycle and a 14 day luteal phase length. This variation among women and from cycle to cycle means that there is really no simple “one-size-fits-all” mathematical formula to calculate your ovulation date. However, it is possible to learn how to identify your own ovulation date and fertile signs by examining your fertility signals.


~Courtesy of Fertility Friend's website (www.fertilityfriend.com)

sullivan said on 3/9/2010 12:36:10 PM Report this post
Thanks alot that was VERY helpful!

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