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potbelly asked on 1/2/2009 9:34:32 AM Report this post
Hi ladies! Sorry I haven't been around at all these past 2 weeks,I went away with my family for the holidays and had no computer access -- hard, but NECESSARY! I'm feeling very refreshed!

How are things back here on the homefront? =) All with baby belly and I are doing ok. Have my next appt. on Jan. 7th and can't wait to check on her/him, plus we may be able to find out the gender!

A HAPPY, HEALTHY, FERTILE NEW YEAR TO ALL =)

sheababy44 said on 1/2/2009 10:22:18 AM Report this post
Happy new years. I am glad you are back. We missed you. So what did you get for xmas. I got the Wii. Love it. I play the bowling everyday.Are you getting you sonogram at the appt? I will find out on the 13th what i am having. I can't freaking wait.

madisonsmom08 said on 1/2/2009 11:18:03 AM Report this post
Heya PB! Welcome back! Glad to hear all is well with you and little you heh...I have my next appt. on the 20th and I will be 17 weeks. I probably won't have my ultrasound until next month and then I'll find out.

Shea- I got DH a Wii for Xmas and we can't get enough of it! Bowling has become a ritutal at my mom's house because my brother got one for Xmas also. He bowled a 300 the other day and now DH has been breaking his back trying to get one hisself lol.

potbelly said on 1/2/2009 11:26:12 AM Report this post
Thanks for the welcomes back! =) For the holidays (Hanukkah and Xmas) I got a couple pairs of pjs, some maternity pants, and (most importantly!) a trip away with my family! It was fun and relaxxxxing.

I have a regular appt. on Jan.7th and then my 3D u/s scheduled for Feb. 4th, so I don't know at which one they'll tell the gender. Hopefully sooner than later though, I am so curious!!!

I've played wii bowling and love it too! I tried my hand at the boxing but I look truly ridiculous!! I would love the yoga one, will have to wait and see next year =)

Mara04 said on 1/2/2009 3:24:55 PM Report this post
welcome back. My SIL had her baby on wed. He's adorable, look just like my brohter, his name is Logan

Nikki1982 said on 1/2/2009 3:31:36 PM Report this post
OMG, I love that name...Logan!!!

Welcome back PB!!

kar said on 1/2/2009 7:39:34 PM Report this post
Hey there! Welcome back! Nice to see someone else celebrates Chistmakkah lol. Sounds like you had a wonderful time. Good luck with your appointment and be sure to fill us in:)

I wanted the wii this year! Especially the yoga. Just did not fit into the budget. Maybe a spring treat?? Take care.

esp9 said on 1/3/2009 1:59:55 PM Report this post
Welcome back PB. Good to hear your holidays were good.

Are you starting to grow out of your pants. Showing at all??? I'm with you I need to find the gender. I also have my ultrasound on the 4th. I hope I find out there, but I have a feeling they will tell my doc to tell me. Im going crazy waiting, but a couple days more wont kill me. I guess.

What else is new with the pregnancy??

Mara04 said on 1/3/2009 8:21:43 PM Report this post
The techs can't tell you. They arent allowed. It has to be sent to a radiologist who reads it and puts it in his report and your Dr will tell you. I think I'm to the point now where I don't want to know. I want to have something to work for through labor and pushing. Cause the more I want to know the harder I'll work to get her out.

charmamma said on 1/3/2009 8:55:46 PM Report this post
Hello ladies glad everybody had a nice holiday...I see some got the Wii, we got it about a year ago but I bought the family the WiiFit which is the yoga and stuff, i have not been able to do any of the major exercises but they have skiing and balancing games ect, we have all been having a lot of fun with it and hoping after baby no 4 comes out March 3 that I can use to whip myself into shape at home. By the way, I Live in Ontario Canada and I was told the gender right there at my ultrasound by the technician, I think it depends on the technician, they won't tell you anything else about baby's health but they will tell you gender if they can tell. I only have 8 weeks to go and looking foward to meeting my little man. Talk soon ladies! Happy New Year!!!!

potbelly said on 1/4/2009 2:54:59 AM Report this post
HELLOOOOO everyone!! Nice to be back =)

The ultrasounds work differently in Italy because it's my own doctor who has her own machine and does the u/s at each appointment, so I've been lucky enough to see the peanut since 7 weeks!

esp9: my belly seems to be growing pretty slowly. Actually, scratch that, the real mystery is that I wake up with nearly no belly, then about 4 hours later it's big and puffy! Haha! The wonders of baby belly!

Mara: that's a great attitude to have, and very true! I know it must be hard to see everyone else getting to find out the gender.



potbelly said on 1/4/2009 2:55:31 AM Report this post
p.s. oh and kar: happy christmakkah to you too haha!!

Mara04 said on 1/4/2009 10:19:56 AM Report this post
Wow, I live in Ont. too and theyt old me the techs arent allowed. they told my SIL too but she wasn't sure so she shouldn't have., She was lucky and was right. When the baby was born is was obvious why she was right lol She could CLEARLY see he was a boy lol But the tech told me they arent trained and aren't supposed to say because there is too much room for error. Mine said she was sure she saw the sex and would put it in the report and what she saw was the cord. The baby was much too small at 20 weeks to tell. I was devestated but I will get over it.

It is very hard especially when there is som uch I need and would like to have gender specific and there is no way I'll find time to go out with TWO kids when this baby is born. Nor will I frickin feel like it lol I have the same belly problems. I was shpwing at 3 months and then by 4, I had a flatter tummy then when I got pregnant lol It's alot of swelling and water retention. To look at me, you would have no idea I'm 7 months. I look like 5 months. I got verylucky this time butn o maternity clothes fit me because my belly is so low. The shirts don't go down as far as I need them too because the bottom of my belly is about an inch from my legs. I also have lots of loose skin form my son. I'm very unhappy with my pregnant body this time around. It looks ratgehr disgusting and not pregnant at all but just fat. That upsets me quite a bit but I suppose theres nothing you can do but suck it up. Thats part of the reason I took maternity leave early. I was tired of being stared at and called fat behind my back. That happens when you work in a fitness centre.

potbelly said on 1/4/2009 11:06:02 AM Report this post
Mara, that is disgusting that people would call you "fat" behind your back when YOU ARE PREGNANT for goodness sakes!! I'm sorry people can just suck sometimes...or, ok, a lot of the times.

Mara04 said on 1/4/2009 11:17:26 AM Report this post
I work in a very "prestigious" health club. And I'm the type when I get pregnant, I get pregnant ALL OVER. Part of is is my own fault, I do feel awful about the way I look cause before this I was starting tolook good. And my boss is somewhat the type who would prefer thin people to work for her. We hired a pro body builder so yeah, I feel pretty low. When she took over as owner she started to weed out the uhh chubby ones I guess? And now there are two of us left who are slightly above average. I'm a 14 regualrly so not huge but not thin either. The other girl has the highest amount of membership sales so they'll keep her. And they have been doing lal they can do get me out. I used to work anywhere from 15-20 hours a week, which I loved, and this month, they cut me down to 8 hours. They want me out. If I should show oyu a picture, I honestly don't look pregnant, I look fat. I don't have the same belly that most women get. Oh, and don't listen to what Shea says either lol She HAS seen me so...yeah lol All I want is to feel good about my body while pregnant and I can't seem to. Nor do I know how to. I know my body is doing somethign wonderful but I still hate the way it looks. Trying to shop for maternity clothes is hell. Nothing fits. I wear alot of my clothes I wore when I was a size 18 cause it fits and fits longer. Thats what I need is long. I can't wear my pants under my belly because I have loose skin and my c-section scar so it's uncomforatble and looks awful, but finding ones to go over my belly that fit is impossible. Same witht he underwear. I have loose skint hat ahngs out the sides of the legs of underwear and I swear, I cry every morning when getting dressed because it looks awful. I don't show off my pregnant body, I hide it because it truly looks gross. I got some pictures from Christmas at my house back and I had one of me from behind, and I bawled for an hour. I had no idea I looked like that. I had back fat and a wide flat ass and it was just awful. And then my Dr wonders why I dont eat? Cause of that! I know it sounds likea huge sob story but I've struggled withmy weight and body issues my whole life and I was fine up until a few weeks ago. I'm just really down and depressed about it and have come to hate getting dressed. I mean, I feel good that all my maternity clothes form when I was pregnant with Connor don't fit, they are way to huge, soI know I'm smaller but tome, it's still not good enough. It was hard to look at mysister in law and see this nice round high belly and then look at me and my blob. My mom bought me a back support belt yesterday to help with some back pain, and it said one size fits all. Well, it didn't fitme. It wouldn't stay done us, and it said to wear under your belly. Well there is no under my belly. Under my belly is my legs. It's just a disgusting saggy mess. Man I got to shut up I sound spathetic, sorry. I just have really major body issues and despite how much I work out it never seems to change. It's depressing.

potbelly said on 1/5/2009 2:30:17 AM Report this post
Oh Mara, you don't sound pathetic!! You just voiced what most of us also feel on a regular basis (especially about being disappointed by what you see in a photo of yourself).

I'm sorry you are feeling so down. And I can sit here and tell you a million times that it's surely not as bad as you feel like it is -- especially with those horrible co-workers making you feel even worse about yourself. But I know from my own experience that that's pointless - you're feeling what you're feeling. But just try to keep it in perspective: what we see in ourselves is ALWAYS worse than what other people see. I just sent a "belly picture" to my family -- I swear I felt as big as a whale in the picture, and all of them wrote back and told me how "tiny" I look. Sure, they may have just been trying to make me feel better, but I did realize that what I was seeing was way too critical. And don't forget that you've also got hormones to contend with too!!

Feel better....

said on 1/5/2009 1:38:26 PM Report this post
Thanks, I've just been having a hard time lately. A sign was put up at work in my room for me that I MUST dress appropraitley for work. Well, I can't afford maternity clothes right now that fit me so I'm wearing what I have. It was a tight christmas and I paid for everything so yeah, when I checked my bank account the other day, there was $9 in it. I lost it when that happened because i made a list of things I need still for the baby and there were a few hundred dollars worth. I felt hopeless. No wonder I'm not sleeping. I refuse to ask for help because well, I'm stubborn. It's not anyones job to pay for what I need or my baby. It always seems to pile up at once. I need a new mattress, connor needs new clothes, I need a few th ings that fit we need new brakes on the car and tons of things for the baby. Of course it seems to be put all on my shoulders. My husband isn't worried at all. That bothers me. I guess if I can't vent on here to people who probably understand more than I realize what can I do right? I appreciate you guys being here. I never admit that I'm having a harder time in this pregnancy than before because, wlel it was my choice, I wanted two kids I thought i was ready, so theres no one to blame for that but me. But yeah, it's much harder the second time. I was looking forward to doing up the baby's room but I can't even afford the paint to do it. That hurt me so much. I need a nice long nap and things will look better then. Thank you guys.

potbelly said on 1/6/2009 4:35:31 AM Report this post
When it rains, it does seem to pour doesn't it? I think you need to find a way to distract yourself happily for a little bit (a nap sounds good, but also a nice walk outside or taking your kids to the park) and then maybe you will be able to be more positive again. I know it's not always that simple, but sometimes it can be.

I'm so sorry about the financial problems you're having too.I'm glad you have us to vent to, and that it helps some.

Mara04 said on 1/6/2009 10:57:37 AM Report this post
It does seem to be that way sometimes. It gets to the point when things are going really well you don't trust it. Something gonna happen. It doesn't take much for me to get overwhelmed either so wat most people can handle I just lose control and break down. The biggest spot of contention for me right now is my job. I'm sure once I can arrange to leave it, I'll be much happier. It's so sad that a job I once loved has come to me dreading going in. I have to work tonight at 4pm and I'm just getting down thinking of it. I don't want to go. I used to go into work early to prepare becaus eI loved it so much. My new boss has made me feel so inadequate at my job and replaced me with someone she considers "better" I am one of those people who lets my job define me so when I get shot down like that I take more personally than I should. What I am looking forward to is all the things i'll be able to do with Connor wehn I'm done work. We took him to a play group my town has 4 days a week this morning and he loves it. You just sit there adn talk to other mothers while your kids play. I can't wait to bring them both there. Plus After the baby is born I'm putting him back in swimming lessons and hopefully this summer he'll want to play Lacrosse. I want to focus on those thigns not a job that makes me miserable. Problem is I want it NOW not in a few months lol I have the day off tomorrow so I'm going to try to take him swimming. Part of this is selfish too, the more I wear him out the better he sleeps! lol

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