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Rachel812 asked on 10/20/2008 9:39:05 AM Report this post
Ok so I am wondering if having a second baby shower is appropriate and/or acceptable. My family (at least from what I know) thinks having more than one baby shower is greedy. If by chance this time I have a girl I don't see why I couldn't have another shower. But, maybe call it a "sprinkle" instead. If I have another boy (which I think I am having) I probably wont do anything. I was also thinking that maybe I can throw a little party right after the baby is born. Which is kind of like a shower but everyone can meet the baby. I don't want anyone to think I'm greedy or just want gifts. I just LOVED my last baby shower. I had SO much fun. What do you ladies think?

sheababy44 said on 10/20/2008 9:54:12 AM Report this post
Well when my BFF was pregnant with her 2 she already had a boy and knew she was having a girl. I gave her a Spinkle and thats what we called it too. She didn't register for anything. I don't think that it would be inappropriate is you are having a girl. But just tell them to come for a party after the baby is born. I love baby shower games they are so fun.

garza74 said on 10/20/2008 10:20:39 AM Report this post
Ok, I guess my family and friends are very greedy because I have thrown/attended baby showers for every child born. Why does one baby deserve it and not the other?? I have never heard of such a thing. Of course, if your kids are close together you have most of the major stuff, but I say have another one!!!!

potbelly said on 10/20/2008 12:27:41 PM Report this post
You know, I never thought about that? I don't think it would be greedy to have a second and call it a Sprinkle, but if you're worried about what people might think, you could just have a party after the baby's born.

wannabemommy09 said on 10/20/2008 3:27:09 PM Report this post
I Wouldn't worry about it, My Cousin had 2 baby showers for the same baby and I've gone to showers for friends/family and each baby they have a shower it's not greedy if so then everyone i know is greedy lol just do what seems right if you want to have a shower then do it.

Rachel812 said on 10/20/2008 10:22:15 PM Report this post
I just feel like this baby deserves a party too. Even if it's after he/she is born. My mom doesn't want anything to do with it and my house isn't nearly large enough to put all those people in it. I'm not asking her to "host" it or even do anything. I'll take care of everything and I don't even need gifts or anything. I have everything for a boy and if by chance it's a girl... I just have to get a few things (bibs, binkies, clothes, receiving blankets etc.) I hope she comes around because I really think times have changed and every baby deserves to be celebrated. I wish my family was a little less... old fashioned. :o(

potbelly said on 10/21/2008 1:13:19 AM Report this post
What about having a small get-together at a restaurant instead of a house? You could even put "no gifts please!" on the invitation (though people will probably bring them anyway) if your mom is worried about how it will look. The more I think about it, the more I think you should totally have it - you're right, why should only the 1st baby have a party?

garza74 said on 10/21/2008 3:06:00 PM Report this post
You're right - that is somewhat old fashioned. Girl register and get this baby gifts too. I've never heard of such a thing. If people have a problem w/you having two showers, they can always bring diapers. Do you have a girlfriend or something that can help you arrange something. Do not feel guilty!!!

XONORA5 said on 10/23/2008 8:59:46 AM Report this post
I had baby showers with each of my pg...and I had girls both time...a year apart. With my second, I even had 2 showers (one from mom and other from step-mom), so I see nothing wrong with it. It is to celebrate the baby...and not necessarily the mother...so I say, have it!

Garza's idea of jsut having a diaper shower is great.l.l.you can never have enough of those. :)

Mara04 said on 10/23/2008 11:00:03 PM Report this post
I was told no it was tacky and it wasn't gonna happen no matter how much I wanted one. My first one really wasn't one at all. I'd love to have one especially because we are so sure this is a ghirl and I have a boy. Oh well.

sheababy44 said on 10/23/2008 11:09:10 PM Report this post
I will throw you a BABY PINK SHOWER MARA. I love you!

Mara04 said on 10/24/2008 1:58:58 PM Report this post
Is it bad that I want one this bad? I mean seriously, I had one for my son but it was held in a basment at my MIL that smelled of the 12 cats she has with 8 people I didn't know and my poor kid got passed around! I was so downright healous at my SIL shower that my mom threw her i left early. I so badly wanetd my fmaily to be at the one for my son but my MIL said no they werent invited. I seriously want one for this baby cause besuides clothes changetable and crib, I need everything else! And if it's a girl, I need so much more. I fel like I'm being selfish and just want one to get stuff but thast not it. I want the food the people the games and most imporantly, the food! lol I wanted to have one while I was pregnant m=but my MIL said no my son had to be one month old. She got me alovely cradle and changetable set thats he wouldn't allow me to have. It had to stay at her place. Well thast fine cause my kids aint staying at her place! She hates me lol How do you say to someone I want a bavby shower please go out of your way to throw me one? I mean my fmaily was just here for my SIl's shower liek they want to come back for mine? Why does this bnother me so much i feel like I could cry lol I'm a loser lol Nothing llike a little self deprecation to cheer one up lol

MeghanF13 said on 10/24/2008 3:15:25 PM Report this post
Throw a "meet the baby" shower/BBQ - then you can do it yourself, and invite who you want. You can decorate (or get friends to) and will be a good way to show off your new one all at once (without having a tonne of visitors individually coming). And it will feel like a shower, and people will bring gifts - and it will be after so they'll know the sex of the baby and what you still need.

Mara04 said on 10/24/2008 3:20:02 PM Report this post
Thats my problem, I don't want to do it after the baby is born, with two kids i won't have the time or energy.

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